Sri M.A.Naidu--A parent's profile

As entire country sleeps my student sekhar boards the flight from US to India to console his mother, sister and himself. Yesterday his father Sri M.A.Naidu passed away. As he travels back to meet his family my thought line travels back to 1994-95 when I first met his father.

Iam 21 at that stage. Young, Directionless and very emotional. And it was my first job at BVK sriharipuram.. And Sekhar was studying 9th class. Sri Naidu used to come on a cycle to drop his son to school or to enquire about his studies or to pay fees. Although many schools were available at that stage he chose BVK perhaps because the values it was famous for. I used to teach mathematics to the classes

The principal always feared sri Naidu and used to be very respectful to him of all the parents. I got the reason soon. He used to be very serious about lapses in education. And his questions on his sons performance very sharp.

Today Sekhar is a way ahead of all his friends at sriharipuram. His world at Hyderabad and US is completely different from the one at Sriharipuram.Whatever Sekhar achieved my brother attributes to his father.On all the important turning points Sekhars father took correct decisions and never made sekhars life confusing at any stage. Independence was very much given to sekhar in greater levels and of course in a defined way. Every parent should learn that art especially. Let it be10th or intermediate or engineering

naidu garu made the choice  look as it was sekhars but the wise part is he defined limitations.

At an age of 14 in 10th standard when sekhar wanted a long leave from school and make a study at my house 35 kilometres away from his Naidu garu went to the school and made it for his son. Today No parent I bet can take such a decision but he did.And that too with a positive hope that I will play a very important role in his sons life.Every moment in those days was a worthy memoir. IT WAS A LESSON FOR ME. I ALWAYS FELT THE HOPE OF NAIDU GARU FOLLOWING ME. HE FOR ME SHOWED WHAT PARENTS ASPIRATIONS ARE MADE OFF.AND IN ONE WAY HE MADE ME RESPONSIBLE.

During Intermediate he went with the wishes of sekhar but made sure that the college was good.He and my brother decided Santha junior college with Sekhars involvement.Today i often see parents behaving like  cranks when coming to make their kids ready for intermediate. Sri Naidu garu is no scholar but he was when parenting was concerned. He made it very much sure to his son that he was destined for greater heights.Sekhar for whatever he is today its because of the platform his father laid for him........

When Sekhar failed to get good rank iun his first attempt at EAMCET he was sad. I still remember  he came to my brother. they had a thorough discussion.Sekhar was involved. Finally it was decided to give EAMCET a second attempt while joining in BSc at Krishna college. Sekhar got what he wanted. he worked hard. got a good rank. Joined in Mechanical at gitam.

For all of you it may appear simple. For me it is a father's desire to see his son develop and a sons ambition never crushed under silly pranks. A  combination of support and aim, encouragement and performance, drive and accomplishment was seen in that father son duo defined. And great thing is  they never showed this in a great way.Dear parents all over, learn this.This is an art implemented by a man long ago.Ambition of a son

and a father's input to achieve it.

I missed Naidu garu later. 

But Sekhar grew before my eyes.

Values he never missed /friends he always supported / job he gave his 100%/ money he managed in a great way /peace he made it a companion even during crisis/ ,................................and in the process travelled to japan and now in US. I always argued its his success -----------my brother countered no its his father's.

Last September Sri Naidu garu fell sick. Health slipped slowly and he finally succumbed yesterday. I was with him through all this. I saw a powerful man finally bowing before god. Leaving his son in severe pain he left

For me he is a parent whose choice is clear----empowerment and enlightenment of his kid. Today's parents have multiple choices and their choice--realisation of their dreams through the kid.Sri M.A.Naidu is a way ahead of this generation

Death tore us apart Sir. But I miss you and sure my brother misses you. You remind us our father.

Sekhar will miss his father for ever 

Me and my brother a caring parent for ever.

And for me sri M.AppalaNaidu is not a name. Its a feeling of parenting and today i feel its a tool for my success  as a teacher.                       

 Thank you sir.

let your soul rest in peace and your family under your blessings prosper well